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Was it Her or Was it Me? It was HIM!

Men need to read this!

Was It Her Or Was It Me? The Douche In Me That I Don’t See

 

Men have to get that bringing up other women insults your date. Women don’t get jealous since it’s just a first date, it’s because the man is openly comparing us to other women. Keep that shit to yourself! We get nervous enough and the key is to make your date feel comfortable to want to open up….not create a competition.

I’ve met a few guys described in that post and I still get a text or two once in a while from them asking me out again.

I don’t reply.

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It’s No Accident

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I saw this word picture and it rung so true to me. It is especially true when it comes to dating. Every date and every person you meet has something to teach you even if you don’t realize it at the time. They could be teaching you something about yourself like I did in This post or it could be something totally random.

For example, I met a man about a month ago for coffee. We had absolutely no chemistry and parted ways never to contact each other again. That being said, he taught me how Not to set my Tim Hortons coffee cup on fire in the microwave at work. I tried the technique and it totally worked! I use it every shift! One of those things where you wonder how you didn’t think of it yourself but never quite pieced it together. (btw, I’m aware the cup says don’t microwave but I’m not allowed to leave work to get fresh coffee from the shop…and who likes cold coffee unless you specifically order it with ice!?!)

Have you ever learned something totally random from a date that you still use? Let me know in the comments or on the Facebook page. 🙂

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Your Ex? Who cares?!?

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You’re NOT ready to date if you CANNOT stop talking about your ex. I understand that if you have kids then you will always have contact with the ex….but you don’t have to mention or talk about the ex. I think we’ve evolved enough that we won’t assume the children just popped up out of nowhere.

With these statements in mind, I really wish people would take the time to heal before attempting to date. Go out with your friends, make new ones, but PLEASE do not ask out women who are Not looking for just friends then use them as a sounding board about your ex. This has happened to me more than once. I make it quite clear in person and in my profile what I’m looking for. Ignoring what I want is another example of disrespect.

I firmly believe that if one doesn’t take the time to reflect that it will only sabotage any new relationship. What often happens when people jump into something new right away is that you behave the same as you did in the last relationship….and you expect the new person to behave like the ex.

Example: The ex went out with their friends and you later find out that they cheated on you that same night in turn destroying your trust. You break up and you meet someone new. Someone new wants to go out with their friends but  you think if your girl/boyfriend goes out they will cheat. Why doesn’t your new relationship have to suffer for the mistakes your ex made?

Signs you’re NOT ready to Date:

  • All you talk about is your Ex. What he/she is doing, what they used to do, etc.
  • You’re in the process of a messy court battle – Divorce, Custody, etc.
  • You have pictures of you and your ex together still on your walls, bedroom, phone and Facebook. I get that if you have kids you may want to save the pictures for them. I don’t think it’s right to go to someone’s place for the first time and see lovey dovey pictures of my date and his ex. Same goes with wedding pictures on Facebook. If I add someone and their profile picture is a wedding shot…Umm No. ( It’s happened…)
  • You talk badly about your ex in front of your kids. This is an absolute NO NO even if you hate your ex 10 years later.
  • You send your ex nasty text messages and e-mails just to try and hurt them…and then tell people about it. This is Harrassment. The also includes writing horrible status messages about your ex. No one wants to read that drama, or any drama.
  • You drive by your ex’s place to see what they are doing or if someone else is there. This is Stalking and is Never acceptable.

To conclude I will say it’s ok to have momentary relapses of hate for the ex…but please, try to do it around friends or other people who understand your plight….or start a blog. 😛

Comments always welcome and please share! Get the message out about moving on!

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Window Shopping for Sex

When it comes right down to it, online dating is like window shopping. Many are browsing just to see what is there with no “intent to buy”. I looked in the Urban Dictiontionary for “window shopping” and I got what I thought I would find but then I also came upon this 3rd definition:

“When a man or woman in a relationship flirts with someone else, with no intention of taking it any further than that. It’s like looking at a brand new 50″ HDTV without the intention of buying it, even though it’s still nice to imagine having sex with it. Example: Matt loves his girlfriend, but he likes to go window shopping on occasion.” – Urban Dictionary

 

Well holy shit! This is exactly what some men and woman do when it comes to online dating. People go on the dating sites because they don’t get enough attention from their spouses. They have no intention of meeting anyone (which is good for their spouses) but they waste honest peoples’ time (bad for people like me). This irks me to no end.

Another thing that has been annoying me lately is the Intent part of people’s profiles. Almost everyone is listing themselves as “Wants to date but nothing serious”. That’s perfectly fine…but I want a relationship eventually…so I STATE that as my intention. When I ask men about that they say, “Well if it’s right then I’m open to a relationship.” Well no shit! Do they think that I’m just going to jump into something with someone because I they also stated they want a relationship? Umm no. I’m not going to jump the while “getting to know each other process.”

Another example of people who don’t know what they want! Figure it out! Please! Sigh

P.S. If you want to date with nothing Serious…then why do these same guys want to have sex with every woman they meet? I’m pretty sure the last time I checked that a man’s penis entering any orifice constitutes as something serious!

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I think this turned more into a rant. Bah, it is what it is. 😛

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